Wow how time flies.

I can’t believe how quickly time flies by, it’s another new month in another new year and I am still trying to catch up with last years  work!!!!

I realised that after months of literally going through hell, one problem after another that it’s left me feeling very anxious and short-tempered.  My normal placid, peaceful self has packed up her bags and travelled to sunnier climates, leaving behind well me, old grumpy pants.

Despite the fact that my life is currently better than its been in a long, long time I can’t enjoy it because I am still trying to recover from my past, not such as easy thing to let go of as it happens.

With my new house ready though, my lovely new kitchen and bathroom fitted and a wonderful garden for the kids to play in, I feel the need to leave the old me behind, I am determined not to pack it up like everything else over the next few weeks but to simply throw it away. And I have decided to do so with the help of some wonderful women who have over come many of their own battles.  The first lady’s blog has settled my heart and made me feel ready to start a fresh in the morning.

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The Confident Mom (www.theconfidentmom.com)  Susan who provides much needed support and empowerment for moms and families. Despite being across seas her message travels far and wide and her advice has certainly made me feel like my old self again.

 

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I have joined up to her mini series aimed at helping moms regain their inner and outer calm, with helpful videos and print outs you can re-focus and touch base with the peaceful you.  I am genuinely looking forward to progressing through this series and I hope some of you other moms will join me too.

thI have also been reading the ‘Apology’ by Plato this week the story of Socrates’ trial, there is one particular line that has blown me away this week so simple yet astounding :

“A person who is good for anything ought not to calculate the chance of living or dying; he ought only to consider whether in doing anything he is doing right or wrong – acting the part of a good or bad person.”

 

I love this line it made me think about how easily we forget about what’s really important when we are racing through each day trying to just survive, it’s all to easy to forget ourselves and what is really important.

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PRIZES, PRIZES AND A FEW MORE PRIZES

Organised mommy in partnership with Homeschooling UK is running a small competition for homes schooling children.

Applicants must draw a picture of their favorite Halloween of Autumn things and send in a picture of what they have drawn by the 28th of October in time for presents to be sent out for Halloween. You can a photograph of your picture and send it via email to homeschoolinguk@outlook.com if you are unable to do this you can post your entries to:

4 Carter Road

Wolverhampton

WV6 0PQ.

All entries must be received by the 28th of October so the winners can be chosen.  Please be sure to include your email address with the entry, the name and age of the artist and winner will be announced on the 29th of October and prizes sent out the same day. Children up to the age of 12 may enter.

FIRST PRIZE IS:

A bumper art and craft pack packed full of great things to make and A big bag full of lollies and a secret Halloween surprise.

THREE RUNNERS UP WILL WIN A BIG BAG

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Creating support groups step two in the fight against depression.

That’s the thing about depression: A human being can survive almost anything, as long as she sees the end in sight. But depression is so insidious, and it compounds daily, that it’s impossible to ever see the end. The fog is like a cage without a key.
Elizabeth Wurtzel 

As stated in the above comment my previous posts we discussed the severity and reality of suffering with depression and then set ourselves upon a path to try and improve the way we feel about ourselves, a mammoth task I  know, but better to take on this challenge then live with the pain and heartache we do from day to day.

The last post discussed the benefits of certain foods and supplements if you missed it click on the link below and have a read.

http://organisedmommy.com/2013/10/15/step-one-to-beating-the-blues-omega-3-fatty-acids/

Today we are working on step two, which involves creating a support network around ourselves, if you are any thing like I was my depression was a huge embarrassment and I kept it to myself always putting on a brave face and a smile, however my friends were beginning to notice how I simply vanished for weeks at a time in the end many of them stopped trying to reach out to me because I simply would not let them in, I had in many ways made an agreement with my depression I knew it was coming to I let it in, have it’s feast and then it was full let it walk away leaving me drained and empty and starting over.

Bills left unpaid, messages not returned, homework to be done, I started things but rarely finished them because once the depression knocked at my door for however long it needed to stay I was it’s slave.

I started to quite quite annoyed with this pattern of life, in fact I was infuriated with it nut more so at myself for being able to see what was happening and yet still letting it happen, a very difficult place to be though because I wanted to change but had no fight left in me, each episode of depression leaving more drained and subdued.

The time I started to heal was when I finally confided in a friend who has stuck around, waiting patiently recognizing that something was wrong something more then I was letting on, being able to talk with her seemed to open the flood gates, her acceptance, her understanding, her own experiences gave me the boost I needed to then speak with my family members, not all understood in fact one of my families members was down right rude about it but I referred back in my mind to the other friends and family I had told and held onto these comments.  At first these ones carried me a little and now, well now I carry myself!! I am actually a stronger person for it despite the self harming or attempted suicides yes I am stronger and more determined then ever to be in control of me.  I am not completely healed, I have my days when I feel like hell but then so do most people it possible though to get through depression to learn to slam the door in it’s face to an un-receptive householder and say leave me alone.

So we need to create a support network some advice from a dealing with depression guide:

10 tips for reaching out and building relationships

  • Talk to one person about your feelings.
  • Help someone else by volunteering.
  • Have lunch or coffee with a friend.
  • Ask a loved one to check in with you regularly.
  • Accompany someone to the movies, a concert, or a small get-together.
  • Call or email an old friend.
  • Go for a walk with a workout buddy.
  • Schedule a weekly dinner date.
  • Meet new people by taking a class or joining a club.
  • Confide in a counselor, therapist, or clergy member.

 

  • Turn to trusted friends and family members. Share what you’re going through with the people you love and trust. Ask for the help and support you need. You may have retreated from your most treasured relationships, but they can get you through this tough time.
  • Try to keep up with social activities even if you don’t feel like it. Often when you’re depressed, it feels more comfortable to retreat into your shell, but being around other people will make you feel less depressed.
  • Join a support group for depression. Being with others dealing with depression can go a long way in reducing your sense of isolation. You can also encourage each other, give and receive advice on how to cope, and share your experiences.

(http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depression_tips.htm)

The social community on places like Facebook, can be a great place to start sharing your feeling and having your daily rant but you need more then this so use it as a stepping stone to get out in the community and make new friends.

If you struggle try just speaking to another mom while waiting to pick up your children from school, or try setting up a book group or holding a makeup party . Volunteer or attend some social events hosted by the local religious community there are many way to start.  Maybe there are support groups for depression, if not why not try starting one it doesn’t need to be much just a small group to encourage one another.

You can do this, believe in yourself and your bodies ability to heal and move forward.

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Diwali

ImageDiwali is a time of great happiness the festival of lights, it encourages happiness all around. If you need something to pick you up after Halloween or need to infuse some joy into your school day, then why not delve into this fascinating culture and brighten up your day.

There are several links below that lead you to pages packed full of lesson plans and fun art activities. You could also consider visiting the holy temple in your area, they are beautiful and the people are very welcoming and happy to accept and accommodate all visitors. If a small group you is going be sure to call ahead and make sure you are OK to visit on that particular day out of respect for this holy place of worship.

http://www.kidsgen.com/events/diwali/

http://www.mommygyan.com/11-gorgeous-diwali-craft-ideas-and-diy-decor/

http://www.dltk-kids.com/World/india/index.htm

http://www.kiwicrate.com/projects/Diwali-Lamps/745

http://www.netmums.com/activities/arts-and-crafts/diwali-crafts

http://www.artsycraftsymom.com/2011/10/diwali-craft-ideas-for-kids.html

 

 

Halloween time !

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Halloween is almost upon us and for those of you who celebrate this holiday there is absolutely loads of great art and crafty stuff for you to get your spooky little mits into.

If you don’t celebrate Halloween but would like to incorporate a lesson about the holiday into your home schooling day there are links below which give you information about the holiday and lesson plans.

Have fun and enjoy.

Cheryl xoxo

http://www.educationworld.com/holidays/archives/halloween.shtml (lesson plans & art and craft)

http://www.marthastewart.com/275085/kids-halloween-crafts/@center/276965/halloween?search_key=halloween%20art%20and%20craft%20for%20kids (art and craft )

http://lessonplanspage.com/halloween-htm/  (lesson plans)

http://teacherlink.ed.usu.edu/TLresources/units/Byrnes-celebrations/halloween.html (lesson plans)

http://supersimplelearning.com/halloween/lesson-plans/ (lesson plans)

http://www.readwritethink.org/classroom-resources/calendar-activities/celebrate-halloween-20315.html (lesson plans)

http://www.teachervision.fen.com/halloween/teacher-resources/6626.html (printables)

http://www.kinderart.com/seasons/halloween.shtml (art , craft and printables)

http://www.enchantedlearning.com/crafts/halloween/ (printables, art and craft)

http://www.allcrafts.net/halloween.htm (art and craft projects)

http://www.pinterest.com/mickell/kids-arts-crafts-halloween (art and craft ideas)

 (Hobby craft currently have a 15% off your first order when join the hobby craft club click on the link below.)

http://www.hobbycraft.co.uk/celebration/halloween?gclid=CK-xyLeimboCFXMQtAodTF4Aaw    http://www.yellowmoon.org.uk/halloween/halloween-craft-ideas?gclid=CN-J1_-imboCFU_HtAodsn0A-Q

 (art and craft supplier)

And if you grown up are having a Halloween bash of your own check out Martha Stewarts fantastic ideas for a great party by clicking on the link.

Adult party ideas

Step one to beating the blues, Omega 3-fatty acids.

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Omega-3 fatty acids are essential for maintaining mental and physical health, the body is not able to produce them on it’s own so we need to ensure we have a rich supply of these through our diet and supplements.  Omega-3 helps with nerve cell communication and scientists believe that a diet deficient of omega 3 can make a person more prone to depression.

In his book  “The Depression Cure: The 6-Step Program to Beat Depression without Drugs,” Stephan Ilardi, tell us that he receives ‘a Noah’s Ark shipment’ of Omega-3 supplements to his home each month knowing what these little gems can do.

A snippet from his book read:

Because the brain needs a steady supply of omega-3s to function properly, people who don’t eat enough of these fats are at increased risk for many forms of mental illness, including depression. Across the globe, countries with the highest level of omega-3 consumption typically have the lowest rates of depression.

Clinical researchers have even started using omega-3 supplements to treat depression, and the results so far have been highly encouraging. For example, British researchers recently studied a group of depressed patients who had failed to recover after taking antidepressant medication for eight weeks. All study patients stayed on their meds as prescribed, but some also took an omega-3 supplement. About 70 percent of those who received the supplement went on to recover, compared with only 25 percent of patients who kept taking only the medication. This study–along with a handful of others like it–suggests that omega-3s may be among the most effective antidepressant substances ever discovered. (End of quote)

Omega-3 fatty acids and food.

  • Foods rich in certain omega-3 fats called EPA and DHA can give your mood a big boost. The best sources are fatty fish such as salmon, herring, mackerel, anchovies, sardines, and some cold-water fish oil supplements. Canned albacore tuna and lake trout can also be good sources, depending on how the fish were raised and processed. When cooking fish, grill or bake rather than fry.
  • You may hear a lot about getting your omega-3s from foods rich in ALA fatty acids, such as vegetable oils and nuts (especially walnuts), flax, soybeans, and tofu. Be aware that our bodies generally convert very little ALA into EPA and DHA, so you may not see as big of a benefit.
  • Some people avoid seafood because they worry about mercury or other possible toxins, but most experts agree that the benefits of eating one or two servings a week of cold-water fatty fish outweigh the risks.

(http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depression_tips.htm)

Below are some links taking you to various websites which tell you where the best food sources of Omega-3 can be found, if you struggle eating these kind of foods then invest in a good supplement, if you are in the UK and entitled to free prescriptions discuss with your doctor the research on Omega-3 and ask him if he can prescribe it for you it’s worth a go.

I know I’m off to get mine. 🙂

http://www.eatingwell.com/nutrition_health/nutrition_news_information/top_sources_of_omega_3s

http://www.whfoods.com/genpage.php?tname=nutrient&dbid=84

http://www.sparkpeople.com/resource/slideshow.asp?show=46

 

Lost and depressed or just need to let of steam, help is out there.

ImageThis week I have touched on the very serious issue of depression, I related some of past experiences and how i developed depression which in turn changed my whole personality and the way I viewed and did things.

The thought of walking out on my children even for a week as I did at the start of the year horrifies me yet these were my actions,  my mind was so altered and broken I simply could no longer function.  Since then I have had to find coping strategies, ways to bring myself out of the darkness and anxiety that seems to appear as quick as the flick of switch and sometimes for no apparent reason.

I remember meeting with a therapist who had a lovely way of helping me understand why i seemed to loose it even when I was having or had had the best day ever.  She asked me to envision a pot, starting at my neck and ending below my belly button.  This pot is where all my feelings go in, good, bad you name they are all in there.  Now a person who has good control over his/her emotions put all the feelings in this pot which is gently simmering on the heat, the lid of this pot is slightly opened so nothing boils over, with people who suffer from depression etc the lid on there pot is closed, it opens the feeling goes in and it closes.  So even on your good days when all those happy feelings are going in, if the pot is then full it has to explode leaving you feeling lost and miserable not understanding whats happened.  

Learning that all emotion is good, even anger can be positive and working with each feeling will allow your pot to stay on a gentle simmer and help you cope with emotion.

Now although this explanation really helped me understand why my meltdowns could happen trying to deal with my emotions was a whole different story.

The advice she gave me was great but because of my personal situation I was simply not able to apply her advice successfully there were too many outside factors that prevented me in the weak state that I was from being able to implement them. So what can we do!!!

One tiny, tiny goal at a time that’s how.  

I don’t know about you but I am incredibly hard on myself expecting perfection when there is simply non to found, it frustrates me how easily others seem to manage their daily lives while I am trailing behind.

The simple truth is if we want to heal we need to take action, we need to take a look around us and do an inventory of our lives is there something in particular that we can pinpoint our depression to some incident which started it all off if yes how can you go about healing from that incident.

Maybe you have been told there is some chemical imbalance that causes your depression and you are stuck on the meds for life.

Below are a couple of very interesting articles you can read on this subject:

http://bigthink.com/devil-in-the-data/the-chemical-imbalance-myth

http://www.naturalnews.com/036149_depression_chemical_imbalance_causes.html

 http://www.anxietycentre.com/downloads/Chemical-Imbalance-Theory-is-False.pdf

(Please remember that for those who struggle with depression as a result of illnesses such as Bi-polar while the information can help you should not mess with your medication before discussing thing with your doctor)

The simple fact is there are hundreds of reasons why we may feel the way we do the real issue is what are we going to do about it!! It’s never going to be perfect, scars don’t just disappear but they do and can fade if you stop picking at them.  

So the first step is to stop beating yourself up and start taking care of yourself.

This week my posts will follow a theme with steps you can take to help yourself on the path to feeling much better if not recovery. I will record the various sources I got the advice from so you can bookmark these sites and return to them when you need to.

I am in this to, this is my daily battle as well so lets try together, lets support each other and move forward to a brighter future.

Cheryl xoxo

Erica, Confessions of a homeschooler

Image I love to find new blogs and sites aimed at helping families educate their children, lets face it home educating is challenging especially fro those who have all the desire but little know how and at one point that was all of us!!!

I found this site about a year and a half ago and have followed Erica daily, I just love this site, it feels like going home in some way, when I see her home page a little bit of happiness spreads across my face because I know I will never be disappointed with what I find.

I strongly suggest all home ed families to take a good look around this site, the educational resources are fantastic and Erica offers so many freebies you will be kept going for weeks.

Thank you Erica for all your hard work, we love you.

http://www.confessionsofahomeschooler.com/about-me

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